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Home Living in South Africa Love, Marriage & Partnership Getting a divorce in South Africa
Last update on 29/06/2022

The divorce process in South Africa can either be a quick and relatively straightforward procedure or a very long-winded one. Get to grips with the basics of South African divorce law, including how DIY and contested divorces differ and how mediation works.

Whether you’re hoping to get a speedy DIY divorce or are dealing with a tough divorce requiring mediation, get the basics of how the process works here.

The divorce rate in South Africa

Between 2012 and 2016, the divorce rate in South Africa increased by 5%, while marriage rates dropped. This is because of an increase in couples choosing to live together but stopping short of marriage.

How to get a divorce in South Africa

Marriages in South Africa must be dissolved by a court. You’ll need to prove that you and your spouse can no longer live together and won’t be able to resolve your differences.

Legally acceptable reasons for ending your marriage are as follows:

  • Adultery
  • Abuse
  • You haven’t lived together for a long time/one partner has left the other
  • The couple no longer love each other
  • One partner has been institutionalized for mental illness for at least two years without sign of recovery

What you’ll need to get a divorce in South Africa

Before being granted a divorce, you must prove that you’ve found a solution to the following issues:

  • Who gets custody of the children. Access arrangements must be agreed before the divorce can proceed. The court can restrict access to either party if it believes seeing a parent isn’t in the best interests of the child.
  • How any maintenance payments will be made. The court will issue an order confirming who pays what. If the two parties can’t agree on payments, then the court will rule on their behalf.
  • How property and other assets will be divided. Generally, assets and debts are shared when you get divorced, unless a premarital contract was agreed. This isn’t always the case, however; rules change over time and the legal situation when you got married governs the division of assets.

Once you provide your divorce summons, your spouse has 10 days (or 20 if they’re in a different province) to respond. When applying for a divorce, you’ll need:

  • Details of your marriage, including the date and location of the marriage
  • Your names and address details
  • Details of any children
  • Grounds for divorce

An uncontested divorce in South Africa

The process proceeds quickly if both parties agree to the divorce and reach a settlement on childcare and financial issues.

Uncontested divorces are the quickest and cheapest option. They involve both parties working with the same attorney to forge an agreement. This agreement then goes to the court.

Do it yourself divorces/filing for divorce in South Africa online

In simple cases, divorce is possible without an attorney. In what’s informally known as a DIY divorce, you can get the required forms from your local magistrate’s court or use an online divorce service.

This process is for simple and uncontested cases. These include when a couple has only been married a short time or where there are no disputes. This kind of divorce can conclude in just four to six weeks.

Default divorces in South Africa

If one partner serves a summons to the other and they don’t respond, this is known as a default divorce.

While default divorces do go ahead, it can be better to ask your spouse why they haven’t responded. They could seek to delay the process later on if they claim the documents weren’t delivered properly or have a justifiable excuse for their lack of response.

Divorce hearings in South Africa

You’ll need to attend a hearing before your divorce is finalized. At this hearing, the judge asks questions for confirmation of your application details. Using a family court rather than a high court could result in your application going through more quickly and cheaply.

Contested divorces

If you and your spouse can’t agree on divorce terms, or one party decides to dispute the reason for the divorce, a contested divorce is the next step – although this can be a far more long-winded process.

South African divorce law

Contested divorces involve going to court and passing through various stages, as follows:

  • Pleadings – Establishes the facts surrounding the summons of the divorce and the defence, and allows the defendant to make a plea and any counterclaims
  • Application for and set down of trial date – The person bringing the divorce applies for a trial date, which is then allocated by the court
  • Discovery of documents – The evidence documents that will be used must be formally raised, and the other party must be allowed to read them before the trial
  • Further discovery/particulars – If one of the parties believe more relevant documents need to be disclosed by the other party, they can request them
  • Pre-trial conference – If requested by the court or either party, a conference to consider a settlement can take place before the trial begins.
  • Trial
  • Judgment


It’s possible to go through mediation to help you reach a settlement with your spouse.

A mediator assists you in dividing your assets and in finding an agreement over child custody. They can write your settlement agreement. The agreement must be presented to the court when applying for the divorce.