Home Living in France Love, Marriage & Partnership A guide to dating the French
Last update on December 06, 2018

Dating French men and woman is for charmers who want intelligent conversations and cultural exchange; but avoid stereotypes. Here’s some dating advice to help you find love in France.

Dating someone from a foreign country can be an exciting experience, but it’s important to keep in mind that a relationship with a person from another culture can be complex.

Different cultures around the world have a different appreciation of the qualities that make someone a desirable mate. What might be considered romantic, attractive or polite in one culture might not be well received in another.

To help you get a clear insight into the French way of dating and being in a relationship, here is some useful advice.

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If you are dating a French woman

Do not be surprised that French women are confident; the confidence is usually well-founded. Only a man with matching intelligence and charm would be noticed by a French woman. They usually expect a certain level of culture and, therefore, you need to be aware of current cultural events.

Just like any other woman, a French woman would be pleased if you asked questions about her culture and world view. Politics is an important topic as well. Show her that you want to understand her political views and the foundation they are based on.

French women are independent; it’s in their nature. Let her have the space and independence that she requires. Her independence should not be regarded as a sign of dissatisfaction. Yet if you have any doubts, go ahead and just ask her.

Avoid stereotypes. Treat your French girlfriend as a separate individual. Use your curiosity to get to know her and her ways, but don’t ever say “Is that a French thing?”

If you are dating a French man

We all know how famous French men are for their romantic skills. French men have very good taste in women, and they really know how to seduce. But we are talking about dating a French man.

Don’t be surprised that the French usually do not date. Actually, in their language, the word for a date is rendez-vous which literally means ‘meeting you’. However, the ‘you’ means people, plural, not one person.

This is just the French way of dating. They go to dinner parties on weekends where single people and people in relationships meet together to have pleasant cultural conversations, a few drinks and some fun. If you meet a nice French man on such an occasion and you find him interesting and the feeling is mutual, then you would most likely expect a date, but you would be wrong. The French way is to invite you ‘on a walk’.

Do not kiss someone if you do not want to be in a relationship with him or her. A kiss on the lips definitely means that you want to have a relationship with this person. So be careful not to send the wrong signal.

It may seem that French men keep their distance and avoid verbal affection. There are exceptions, but in general, French men like to keep their independence. They are unlikely to send you a bunch of sweet texts on your mobile. They might send one, saying they want to make love to you; however, this may not mean anything more than a desire for your body.

It doesn’t matter if you are a man or a woman, and what nationality you are, just try to be respectful of other cultures and try to understand their ways. There will always be cultural differences. Whenever you feel that something is unclear or wrong, go ahead and speak with your partner. This is your best chance of making it all work out fine.