Sun, 21 March 2010
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"How come when I greet a person they do not greet back. I think it is rude and unfriendly!"
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Dear Jacqueline and all the others out there who feel that this statement / question was about due for this column.
The answer to this is (do not sigh): “Rudeness is in the eye of the beholder”.
Granted, this will not get you further, so let’s dig a little deeper. Like every other culture, the Germans also have a code of conduct. But what is polite or impolite is unfortunately not always a 100 per cent compatible across borders.
It all starts with our cultural assumptions or to put it another way the management of our expectations.
When you come from a greeting culture - where you get a smile or a hello back - you have been conditioned to expect just that. Whenever it is not reciprocated, we tend to be quick with a judgement about the other person. It is almost as if your feelings have been hurt.
Stop! Right there!
Do not take this non-greeting personally. Most often it has nothing to do with you, unless someone has a bone to pick with you. This non-greeting reflects nothing more than one of the many cultural differences you experience when living internationally.
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