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Getting married is so much easier on Facebook than in real life.
When I set up the profile on my Facebook page, one of the pieces of information requested was my relationship status. Since my boyfriend was also on Facebook, he needed to 'confirm' the relationship. So at first, my profile said 'in a relationship with Bas Linders (awaiting confirmation'”. I also received a message to confirm our relationship for his profile. My options were 'confirm relationship' and 'cancel relationship'. These things seem so simple on the internet.
In brick-and-mortar life, however, the decision to confirm your relationship involves more than the click of a mouse. First, we had to deal with all the paperwork at the Stadhuis (City Hall).
When the big weekend arrived, so did the relatives. Guests were flying in from the US and all over Europe. We spent much of the weekend translating from Dutch to English and English to Dutch. The party was an open house starting at 14:00. By mid-afternoon, our small apartment was wall-to-wall with people. The tiny balcony was packed with smokers. Someone dumped over one of the trays of catered food, so there was a scramble to get more food on the table. As the evening wore down, the crowd was reduced to family and just a few friends. Sleeping bags were unrolled and the living room floor hosted our wedding slumber party.
On Monday morning, we all got dressed for the ceremony. We all met at the Stadhuis, a beautiful building from the 17th century. When everyone was seated inside, the ceremony began. Unlike American weddings, in the Netherlands the bride and groom sit in chairs in front of the official. We only had to stand to take the vows. The official often addressed the guests and it felt like we were all in this together as a family.
As part of the ceremony, there was a story of an African god and goddess who embraced and created the world. The world they created is symbolized by a bi-color gourd, the green part on the bottom is the earth and the yellow part on the top is the sky. The official held one of these gourds and talked about how we were creating our own world together. She presented it to us and in all the photos after the ceremony, Bas is holding our world in his hand.
The day after the wedding, Bas changed his relationship status on Facebook. I received an email with this subject line, “Bas Linders said that you two are married…”. The message said, “Bas said on Facebook that you two are married. We need you to confirm that you are, in fact, married to Bas. To confirm this relationship request, follow the link below:…”
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Lynelle Barrett is an editor at Expatica and has, in fact, confirmed her relationship.
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