Expat Voices: Lizelle Smit on living in the Netherlands
South African Lizelle feels safe but lonely in the Netherlands—even Afrikaans speakers find it difficult to converse and make Dutch friends.
Name: Lizelle Smit
Nationality: South African
City of residence: Wageningen
Date of birth: 9 January 1975
Civil status: Unmarried, in partnership
Reason for moving to the Netherlands: My partner was transferred by his company.
Lived in the Netherlands for: 10 months
What was your first impression of the Netherlands?
My first impression of the Netherlands was that is it wet, dark and cold. Since then I’ve experienced a summer and now view the weather more holistically.
What do you think of the food?
I find the masses of sugar and chocolate added to baked goods and used in spreads very strange. I also find horse meat for sale hard to stomach. Apart from that, I’ve fallen in love with poffertjes and erwtensoep, eaten steaming hot at the local market. I also like the wide range of smoked sausages and cheese. As for haring, I haven’t tried it and I don’t think I will. I don’t like sushi, so a raw herring won’t go down too well.
What do you think of the shopping in the Netherlands?
Shopping is varied and the selection is fantastic. Most little towns offer the necessities, while travelling by train to Utrecht for a major shopping spree is easy and fun. I do find prices high compared to for example Germany or the Czech Republic. But I’ve learned that shopping at real discount stores sometimes delivers surprisingly good quality.
What do you appreciate about living in the Netherlands?
I enjoy the freedom of jumping on a bike, bus or train to get where I want to go. I like being less dependent on a car for transport. I also like the Dutch focus on recycling and the environment. The Netherlands is also a great base from which to explore Europe and the rest of the world. I love the oddities of learning a new culture.
What do you find most frustrating about living in the Netherlands?
Although I speak Afrikaans (a language similar to Dutch), I still struggle to converse with people. I find it exceedingly frustrating making friends. I get the idea that although Dutch people are friendly, they don’t easily befriend foreigners. It will probably take a few more years before I have a girlfriend to join me on a shoe-shopping mission.
What puzzles you about the Netherlands and what do you miss since you’ve moved here?
I sometimes wonder why everything has to be so strictly regulated. But then again I love the safe society all the rules create; it’s a nice change from living in South Africa. I do think all the rules and regulations create a simmering tension just underneath the surface of Dutch society, which explodes every now and then.
How does the quality of life in the Netherlands compare to the quality of life in other countries that you’ve lived in?
In South Africa I had a bigger house, bigger garden, more space and of course all my friends and family around me. I also had awesome weather and sunshine most of the year. But I was always concerned for my safety. Over here, space is limited but cleverly utilised. I do not worry about safety anymore, but I am lonelier than ever before. So with the good comes the bad. As with most things in life.
If you could change anything about the Netherlands, what would it be?
I would like to see Dutch people become more flexible and dynamic. I feel Dutch society has stagnated and become too comfortable with its perceived place in the world. I feel people in the Netherlands need new skills to face new challenges.
What advice would you give to a newcomer?
LEARN THE LANGUAGE. And laugh it off when you feel insulted by a blunt Dutch reply.
All photos © Lizelle Smit
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