A guide to dating the French

A guide to dating the French

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Dating French men and woman is for charmers who want intelligent conversations and cultural exchange; but avoid stereotypes. Here's some dating advice to help you find love in France.

Dating someone from a foreign country can be an exciting experience, but it's important to keep in mind that a relationship with a person from another culture can be complex.

Different cultures around the world have a different appreciation of the qualities that make someone a desirable mate. What might be considered romantic, attractive or polite in one culture might not be well received in another.

To help you get a clear insight into the French way of dating and being in a relationship, here is some useful advice.

If you are dating a French woman

Do not be surprised that French women are confident; the confidence is usually well-founded. Only a man with matching intelligence and charm would be noticed by a French woman. They usually expect a certain level of culture and, therefore, you need to be aware of current cultural events.

Just like any other woman, a French woman would be pleased if you asked questions about her culture and world view. Politics is an important topic as well. Show her that you want to understand her political views and the foundation they are based on.

French women are independent; it's in their nature. Let her have the space and independence that she requires. Her independence should not be regarded as a sign of dissatisfaction. Yet if you have any doubts, go ahead and just ask her.

Avoid stereotypes. Treat your French girlfriend as a separate individual. Use your curiosity to get to know her and her ways, but don`t ever say "Is that a French thing?"

If you are dating a French man

We all know how famous French men are for their romantic skills. French men have very good taste in women, and they really know how to seduce. But we are talking about dating a French man.

Don't be surprised that the French usually do not date. Actually, in their language, the word for a date is rendez-vous which literally means 'meeting you'. However, the 'you' means people, plural, not one person.

This is just the French way of dating. They go to dinner parties on weekends where single people and people in relationships meet together to have pleasant cultural conversations, a few drinks and some fun. If you meet a nice French man on such an occasion and you find him interesting and the feeling is mutual, then you would most likely expect a date, but you would be wrong. The French way is to invite you 'on a walk'.

Do not kiss someone if you do not want to be in a relationship with him or her. A kiss on the lips definitely means that you want to have a relationship with this person. So be careful not to send the wrong signal.

It may seem that French men keep their distance and avoid verbal affection. There are exceptions, but in general, French men like to keep their independence. They are unlikely to send you a bunch of sweet texts on your mobile. They might send one, saying they want to make love to you; however, this may not mean anything more than a desire for your body.

It doesn't matter if you are a man or a woman, and what nationality you are, just try to be respectful of other cultures and try to understand their ways. There will always be cultural differences. Whenever you feel that something is unclear or wrong, go ahead and speak with your partner. This is your best chance of making it all work out fine.

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3 Comments To This Article

  • Rei posted:

    on 30th June 2015, 17:12:15 - Reply

    hi i have dated a french guy and in my opinion they are the hardest to deal with . their understanding of a relationship is quite different to the normal expectations . i have seen quite a lot of them , my ex and his big group of friends .
    i will totally agree with this article. they just love to party and flirt around , not into texting and sending you msges and calls in the day . they want to have their freedom and thats when the responsibilty as a parter lacks . my advice if you are looking for a committed relationship dont go out with french guys . they are really fun to hang out and very charming but not good to be with for a longer time .hope these helps . thx

  • jo posted:

    on 19th July 2014, 04:14:02 - Reply

    - We DO date. The french word for date is: "rencard". We just don't say: "Let's have a date", it's implied. We say: "let's have a drink, let's have dinner together". Like in every country actually. If a man ask you for a dinner or a drink together, and if you are not good friends, it's a date.

    -We DO NOT date on parties. But you can meet someone during a party, you may kiss him aswell or do whatever you want, and date him after that, just the both of you. like everywhere in the world.

    - "If you meet a nice French man and you find him interesting and the feeling is mutual", then you CAN date him. You can ask him for a drink the day after, or waiting for him to ask, it doesn't matter.

    -"Do not kiss someone if you do not want to be in a relationship with him or her." Actually, this is not true, it depends on the context. If you kiss a french man after some dates, so it's true, that means the relationship begins. If you kiss a french man during a party where you both are drunk, sorry but don't expect to be in a relationship. Anyway he could ask for a date the day after.

    -"It may seem that French men keep their distance and avoid verbal affection.". French men will make you a lot of compliments, but saying "i love you" in france means a lot, so we need time to say it :)

    In fact, french men are like every man in the world i think. Maybe more romantic for some of us. My best advice is: be yourself :)

    Source: 25 year old french man :)
  • Cherie posted:

    on 6th July 2012, 15:52:37 - Reply

    Thank you for these key advice, because I have a date tonight with a french man and its exciting. I too from a culture where french is spoken and he was blown away that I was able to write and speak a little french. Wish me luck!