Xenophobe's® Guides: Love and lust in Spain
Spain may have a strict Catholic past but lust is ever in the air.
There is nothing about the Spanish appreciation of sex that is inhibited or restrained. It is accepted that both men and women love making love, which is why there are few sex crimes in the country. The pervert is usually a puritan who has been warned since childhood against the most serious sins of the flesh, or else he was educated in an English public school.
The Church, once powerful and reprimanding, is no longer allowed to dampen people's enjoyment of sex. Society finds sex a normal and logical thing, because they need to let off sexual steam and it is very enjoyable.
Until he truly falls in love, the Spanish male has a tendency to assert his masculinity, deny that he can be sentimental, and calculate the minimum time he needs to be with a woman.
From the Spanish female point of view, the foreign male has little to offer that she can't find at home as far as sensuality is concerned, so non-physical attributes such as humour or money can sway the balance.
The custom of piropear (saying flirtatious things) is an ideal opening gambit for the Spanish caballero. All Spanish women know how to receive compliments gracefully, and all Spanish men are experts at paying them. The younger Spaniard may well dispense with such eloquence, and use the more direct wolf whistle.
Since there is nothing clandestine about the appreciation of sex, there is no censorship on television. Couples coupling merrily can therefore be seen by all ages at any time of the day or night. Brothels are illegal in Spain, which does not, of course, mean that they do not exist. Local authorities have long ago realised that brothels are a good thing to have around. They not only keep the male councillors happy, but boost tourism and help assuage the fiery passions of young men.
For more, read The Xenophobe's Guide to the Spanish.
Reproduced from Xenophobe's Guide to the Spanish by kind permission of Xenophobe's® Guides.
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