MadridMan: Still happy to be living in Spain
Struggling through the cultural pangs of moving to a new country? MadridMan shares his experiences on how he came to love his new home.
People often ask me, “Now that you’ve been living in Spain for awhile, are you still happy?” It seems they expect me to be fed-up and ready to pack my bags and go back home to the USA – but nothing could be further from the truth. I also realise I’m one of the few who feel truly “at home in Spain”.
I’ve been living in Madrid for 3.5 years and still feel very stimulated walking the streets of Madrid, getting my hair cut, going to the dentist, and just simply doing the shopping and talking or chatting with store owners. The word “stimulated” could mean several things, of course, but in my case it’s a positive word. I’ve never felt so alive in my life. Now, people in the neighborhood know me and seem to like me – or at least see me as a good-natured curiosity.
My trips “home” to the USA are usually bittersweet. I love visiting family and friends but feel anxious and somewhat sad to leave my Madrid and am nearly immediately ready to return. When I do, when that plane touches down on the tarmac of Madrid Barajas Airport, a relief rushes through me. Even last year’s return made me misty eyed, happy to be back in Spain.
Surely I’m an oddity, or at least that’s how I feel. Maybe I’m “special”, a case like no other. Surely there are others.
Since moving here, I’ve met so many Americans and even some Brits whom have had plenty of difficulty assimilating themselves into the daily life and ways of Spain. Many of these people fail to grasp what is Spain for all its good and some of its bad. Many others can’t let go of their home countries and/or families and friends. Many are so attached to “home” that they can’t live anywhere else successfully. And then there are some who just can’t live without Taco Bell. (yeah, I hear this one a lot!)
But one doesn’t have to let go completely and can live both worlds, both cultures at the same time to some extent, if necessary. Here, we have American/English-language television on both satellite and (now) the free TDT-digital television, we have nearly all of the American-made movies in English or V.O.S. (“Versión Original Subtitulado“), we have products and restaurant chains from the USA, daily front page news on the Spanish newspapers, and, of course, the internet opens all doors to media and news to the USA as well. Even last night’s Michael Jackson Memorial program was translated and broadcast live on several local Spanish television stations.
In Spain and throughout the world, no doubt, you can’t escape the USA, no matter how hard you may try.
Madrid, nor Spain, is perfect. Not by far. But it has enough of the wonderful, glorious characteristics (at least for me) to make it the place to be, the place for me, the place to live a good life full of social interaction, genuine brotherhood, incredible food and drink, an outdoor life I’ve never known before, and people who are not afraid to tell you how it is.
My best advice to those considering a move to Madrid or Spain is the following (abridged, of course):
- study the history, the landmarks, and even the streets before arriving
- form an exchange of ideas with local people who live there already (use social media sources)
- learn the language
- read local & national newspapers
- watch local TV & webcams via the internet
- learn to love the food
- make your future home your current hobby
- learn to, to some degree, “let go” of your home country (this can be hardest)
- visit your future home country/city as often as possible before moving
- have an open mind to different ways of life & values
Doing all of the above (and maybe more) can help you feel “at home” before arriving at your future Spanish (or whatever country) home. You’ll feel less foreign, already knowing the restaurants, streets, plazas, landmarks, and maybe even have a few friends waiting for you when you get there. All these things will help you be happier.
MadridMan.com, in great part, is a creation of my hobby to learn about Madrid and Spain. It served to bring all the above-listed things together in one website. Researching all the information, history, and websites included in MadridMan.com helped me feel more Madrileño long before I moved here in 2005. Maybe it could help you too.
In closing, yes, I’m still over-the-moon to be living in Madrid and Spain. This is my home now and I’m not at all sure I could live anywhere else.
MadridMan is the online persona of an American living in Madrid since 2005. He started his Spain Travel & Tourism company, Martin Media, in 2006 and enjoys living - and sharing - life as a tourist on a daily basis.
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