Dating the Germans

14 signs you're dating a German

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You know you're dating a German when you've had the talk about ditching those short swimming briefs – but came to a compromise instead.

1. You’ve had the Speedo conversation

Even the hairiest German men with the worst sunburns and the biggest beer bellies love their teeny-tiny swimming briefs. They wear them at the beach, with shoes and socks at resorts, and, if they’re feeling fancy, with t-shirts while lounging at the pool. Some Germans can be convinced to don more modest beachwear. But for most, there’s no convincing them that less is not more. Marriage is all about compromise.

2. You know real beer can never be lime or chocolate flavored, or worst of all 'lite'

For Germans, beer is water, barley, hops, and yeast. No tinkering allowed.

3. The 4pm kaffe und kuchen time is sacred

It doesn’t matter what else is going on – everything is put on pause for the traditional coffee-and-cake break in the late afternoon. At this time, you’re reminded of exactly why you married (or are dating) a German: nationwide permission to have dessert before dinner.

4. You’ve stopped defending the bread from your own country

Germans take their bread very seriously. It’s dark, crusty and robust. Never white and fluffy and sweet. What Americans call bread is an abomination to them.

5. Sauerkraut is in heavy rotation in your household

You can no longer imagine serving pork without it. And for those days when your digestive system is a little, let’s say, plugged up, you know from your mother-in-law that sauerkraut is the cure for all stomach ailments.

Dating the Germans: Sauerkraut

6. You know what the 'Klinscam' is.

Even though Jurgen Klinsman is now the coach of the US national soccer team, the Germans can’t stop obsessing about him. He’s a soccer hero back home, and beloved for his expressiveness on the sidelines as a coach, especially compared with the current, stoic German coach. Watching Klinsman’s reactions broadcast from a camera permanently pointed at him (the 'Klinscam') during games has become a popular spectator sport.

7. You’ve realised how weird it is that the fast-food chain Wienerschnitzel serves hot dogs

First, you learned what a Schnitzel really is. In the next stage of your indoctrination into German culture, you learned the critical differences between a Jager Schnitzel and a Zigeuner Schnitzel. Now when you talk about the nation’s favourite dish, you know it’s important to be spot on with the details.

8. You’ve learned how to interpret lukewarm responses

You know that German men are, shall we say, a bit muted when it comes to expressing their feelings. Whatever their reaction is, you learn to crank it up a few notches in your interpretation. 'It could be better' = 'It’s great! I love it!'

9. You no longer say things like 'let’s do lunch sometime'

You’ve learned that Germans can’t stand the American habit of flippantly suggesting get-togethers they never intend to follow through with. What we Americans consider friendly small talk, Germans find a waste of time.

10. You know lederhosen is about as representative of Germany as the cowboy hat is of the United States

Your German family has schooled you on the fact that those cute leather shorts you imagined your husband wearing as a young boy are actually Bavarian, and not typical elsewhere in the country – which is disappointing, because they are really adorable.

Dating the Germans: Lederhosen

11. You know on 6 December Santa Claus will beat you with a stick

On this day, Germans celebrate Sankt Nikolaus Day. According to folklore, good kids get their stockings filled. Bad kids get a bag of ashes and a beating from good old Saint Nick. Well, at least you can recover with a mug of gluwein. Once you marry a German, the holiday seasons are never the same again.

12. You correct people when they describe Arnold Schwarzenegger’s accent as German

Thanks to your German family, you can now tell the difference between Austrian and German accents. Or at least, you pretend that you can tell, and you agree with them that Austrians talk funny.

13. Dinner at 6pm means 6pm sharp – not 6:10pm or 6:20pm or whenever the roast is ready

Germans are known for their punctuality. Through trial and error, you’ve learned that getting dinner ready doesn’t mean sipping a glass of wine while you casually cook and chat. You prepare your dishes with a chef’s precision, making sure everything is piping hot on the table at 6pm sharp.

14. You root for the German football team

If you rooted for another team during the World Cup, you’re still hearing about it.


LiAnne Yu / Reprinted with permission of Matador Network.

LiAnne Yu LiAnne is an anthropologist who splits her time between San Francisco and the Big Island, Hawaii. She loves exploring the underwater world, talking stories with old timers and getting the dollar-fifty hot dog and drink deal at Costco. She is the author of Consumption in China, published by Polity Press. You can find her travel stories at www.immersivejourneys.com.


Photo credits: Claude TRUONG-NGOC via Wikimedia Commons (thumbnail), Jeremy Keith (sauerkraut), Nina (lederhosen).

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1 Comment To This Article

  • Catherine posted:

    on 24th February 2016, 14:36:35 - Reply

    Kaffe? Gluwein? Shouldn't that be Kaffee and Gl%uFFFF?